Hitting the beach before summer is over? Be sure to take a walk on that warm sand for these beachy benefits!
Loneliness is an interesting feeling. Just a few weeks ago I was on the beach; it brought back a feeling of loneliness. The last time I had been on that same beach, I was lonely. I have many friends, a great family, and many would be surprised that I would even feel that way. I think at the time when I was at that very same spot, separated from my husband, trying to get my business going, I sort of isolated myself from the real world. I needed to let go of all the heartache and pain that had been troubling me. That is exactly what I did too; it took time and wasn’t easy, but it is possible and was done. I started to move on with my life, take charge of my own emotions, and focus on the things that made me happy. Before I knew it, the loneliness started to fade. I think I made myself feel lonely because I was not happy with all that was going on in my life. I was using it as a defense mechanism, it felt more comfortable feeling that way, and was easier to deal with the heartache at the time. This past year I have grown so much and I know what I don’t want to be like; lonely is one of those things. This time around as I sat there on the beach with some of the most important people in my life, all that loneliness that I once felt was gone. Not because my heart no longer aches either; I think after you have had your heart broken, a tender spot always remains. That feeling was gone because I chose not to feel that way anymore; I realized all the good I was hiding myself from and didn’t want to do that because I am not alone, I have so much to be grateful for and many to share it with, and I love too much to keep it to myself. Think about that when YOU ever feel lonely.
- Sadness because one has no friends or company. Feelings of depression and loneliness. The fact of being without companions; solitariness.
- The quality of being unfrequented and remote; isolation.
Us that love the ocean, as beautiful as it is, we often fail to realize how much human emotion is just like it. From the sensation of the sand, the crash of the waves giving you butterflies, the temperature of the water against your skin, and its bold blue color, I strongly believe its natural therapies are healing. Just as the waves can roll onto the shore with ease, they can roll back out and take all of your pain with them to deep sea where they disappear. Think of that next time you are at the beach.
So many have asked how I get my hair wavy when I take a trip to the coast. I usually straighten my hair out at least 2x weekly since my chi iron and I are very good friends. Ha-ha! My natural hair is more on the straight side but not curly and very thick. It’s like nothing can really tame the beast on my head. When I take a trip to the coast because of how humid it is, my hair ends up extremely frizzy after i straighten it. When on vacation who wants to be worried about their hair? I know I sure don’t.
The only product that I have had success with is Moroccan oil which is very expensive if you have long, thick hair and use it daily like I do. So instead of that I have been using Suave’s version; it’s not only less expensive, the bottle is bigger, and the oil seems thicker. I think it conditions my hair a lot more, definitely detangles it, and the scent is not to strong.
After washing and conditioning my hair, I apply the oil to my hair and brush it through with
my Wet Brush to evenly distribute it as best as I can without the pain of taking tangles out. Even though I have been in the beauty industry over 19 years, I still can’t not French braid my hair…or anyone else’s either. Luckily I have a bestie that can do it for me and conveniently lives near the coast. (She’s also an awesome massage therapist and owner of Massage by Roni.)
French braids seem to work tons better than regular braids because your hair will be wavy from the scalp down to the ends of your hair. She makes two French braid pigtails on me. I leave the braids in till my hair is fully dry. I usually like to do this at nighttime. It may be a bit uncomfortable to sleep with the braids on but it is well worth it in my opinion.
The next morning I take my braids out, run my fingers through my hair, and then I have my beach hair look. No blow drying, straightening or anything. I think it’s fun and perfect while you’re on vacation. Give it a try.
Here are a couple of other Beach Hair Tutorials:
DIRECTIONS: Mix Warm water and salt first and shake well. Add the rest of the ingredients. Spray your hair generously and scrunch.
On the road, husband driving, so thought I’d blog a bit while it’s not my turn to pick which station we’re going to listen to on Pandora . Haha! Decided to take a spur of the moment road trip to visit my bestie in the Rio Grande Valley. With my step daughter back in Seattle, our nephew starting school, the accident my husband was in, and catching up with work stuff, it has been a bit difficult getting into our usual routine. Our couple of days off consisted of sleeping in, eating and drinking yumminess (which included George Clooney’s tequila-Casamigos), enjoying the coastal breeze, sand between our toes, swimming in the cool gulf waters, and of course hanging out with the bestie and her family.
In just these couple of days I’ve seen a difference in my husband. He’s calmer, more focused about goals, and looks happier. I think he really needed the break. Life gets crazy for everyone, there’s no stopping what is meant to come our way. But no matter what that is, always take time to collect yourself, enjoy and appreciate the little things and people in your life. Keep a positive attitude that there’s always a way to make things better and right, and all will fall into place when it’s meant to. The older I’m getting, the more my gratitude grows for things we cannot replace. If life is crazy… take a break… then tackle it with a stronger, clearer mind. Hope everyone’s week has started out good.
The Texas valley is starting to feel like my second home; Harlingen mainly. With the bestie & her family living there, their beautiful home that feels like a bed and breakfast, and the nice down to earth people that reside there, how can it not? The bestie happens to be the owner of Massage by Roni inside Montage Salon located in Harlingen , so if youre in the area, be sure to schedule a massage for some relaxation or to get those stress knots out! A couple of weekends ago I had the privilege of staying in a very quaint beach house in South Padre Island for a whole weekend with my bestie & my nephews. That weekend we were able to enjoy some local spots, go on an adventure at the end of the island, & enjoy some local cuisine. Our main reason for spending the weekend there was Sand Castle Days. Though the fest was smaller than expected, it not only drew in a big crowd, it was really cool to attend.
Held at this really cool restaurant (that carries my favorite beer Landshark, has live music, & fireworks), bar, family place, beach view all rolled up in one called Clayton’s, Sand Castle Days featured artists from all over the world and locally. Being an esthetician and working on many beautiful faces let me start off with my favorite sand art piece. This one was called “Bleeding”. Artist Guy-Olivier Deveau is a professional sand and ice sculptor from Quebec, Canada. I was so mesmorized by this piece I could not walk away from it…talk about flawless!
Another favorite titled “Lady in a Dream” was by artist JooHeng Tan all the way from Singapore! It was so amazing to see this piece up close and personal.
I couldn’t help but take a picture of this one; I know how much my nephews love sharks! And being the wife of a Marine & the artist being self taught…yes, this was another favorite! Greg J. Grady is from New Hampshire; he works with sand, now, ice, wood, and pumpkins. Being a huge Halloween junkie, I’d love to pick his brain on pumpkin carving!
Now this local artist was as cool as his sculptor; Amazin’ Walter McDonald is from South Padre Island. He has been a part of Sand Castle Days for all of its 25 years! He’s won several awards for his work. We actually got a chance to meet him and take a few pictures with him as well.
Here are some other awesome sand sculptors that were at the fest.
If you are ever visiting South Padre Island you need to visit these local restaurants. Talk about great food, good service, and a really cool atmosphere! For breakfast we went to Grapevine Café Coffeehouse; I love to try new things so I ordered the crab meat omelet stuffed with real Crab Meat and Tomato, then lightly glazed with hollandaise and topped with sliced Avocados, talk about heavenly! As my beverage of choice, I had a café mocha that tasted even better than big coffeehouse chains. Coming from a big coffee drinker…that should tell you something! For dessert we couldn’t pass up having pumpkin pancakes!
Lunch time rolled in…and how can you NOT eat seafood on an island!? We hit up Dirty Al’s; it was highly recommended by my social media buddies on Google+. We started off with fried calamari and ended it with a fried shrimp basket. “Dirty Al” is owned by Alfonso Salazar, better known as “Dirty Al” who originally started shrimping as a young man with his father and 6 brothers. Being a fisherman’s daughter, I was beyond pleased!
Now for dinner! One of my favorite cuisines is Cajun; having recently returned from New Orleans I was having withdrawals for that Creole spice! So we had dinner at Daddy’s Seafood & Cajun Kitchen. As soon as I walked in I thought of my little brother who happens to love Cajun cuisine as well. They even have their own pet alligator! For my appetizer I had the lobster bisque; it was creamy with big chunks of fresh lobster, the best I have ever had. As my main entrée I had the Fried Crawfish & Crawfish Etoufee…I wish I could have brought a to go plate home; the crawfish were huge!
To walk off all of the great food we had we drove to the end of the island…I had never seen sand dunes that big and with the rainy windy weather, the seashore was full of thick surf and huge waves, it was beautiful. We walked along the beach and searched for seashells, they were much bigger than the shells in Port Aransas. We had a chance to see locals getting ready to kite surf and take lots of pictures of the beach. We also stopped by the South Padre Island Bird and Nature Center; the views and wildlife we encountered made the visit totally worth it. We visited the beach to enjoy sunsets and cloudiness on the bay…Texas nature is breathtaking. If you haven’t visited our Texas coast in South Padre Island…I highly recommend it…just don’t come back with a souvenir like I did from climbing the sand dunes! Till next vacation…safe travels everyone!
They say blood is thicker than water…that’s not always true. Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely close to my immediate family, but outside that, I’m not. In fact, my close friends are more like my blood than my own extended family. This weekend I spent time in the Texas valley with my best friend and her two boys that I consider my family; nothing like being in a small coastal town where everyone is friendly. Hearing my nephew’s little voices filled with excitement that I was visiting made me think of when I was their age. We didn’t grow up very close to aunts, uncles, or cousins, but we were fortunate our parents did many things with us. As a kid, you’d love to have that aunt or uncle that spoiled you rotten, unfortunately it doesn’t always turn out that way. Blood or not.
We are all put in other people’s lives for a reason…a blessing or a lesson. Being in these boys lives, I know I’m a blessing. I may not be blood, but I know what it feels like to not have your aunts and uncles do fun things with you or a part of your life at all. With me in the picture, I know the boys will never feel like they’re missing extended family from their lives. They know what it’s like to have an auntie spoil them, act a little silly when their mom or dad isn’t watching, go on unplanned adventures, and of course eat ice cream at any hour of the night…with good behavior of course!
If you have nieces and nephews make an effort to be in their lives, there’s no excuse not to be. This weekend we walked the beach, searched for seashells, climbed big sand dunes, and got to see some really cool sand castles.
I have 4 nephews…5 if you count a dog. I love them all and even though I don’t see them everyday, I make sure to make up for it when I do. Lots of memories were made this weekend…definitely one for the books! Stay tuned for my blog about Sand Castle Days in South Padre Island, Texas!
April M. Monterrosa is a Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Military wife, the mama of a dachshund, a licensed Cosmetologist of 18 years, & Owner of The Lil Spa Room, PCA Skin Chemical Peel certified, a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor, & freelance beauty writer. With beauty & blogging being such passions, Shine Beautifully was born. Shine Beautifully will feature beauty tips, home remedies, quotes, poetry, recipes, personal stories, & travel adventures. Don’t forget to subscribe!