Remember the movie, “He’s just not into you”? Well single ladies looking for love could actually learn a thing or two from it. Before being married, I dated quite a bit! Here are some of the red flags that kept me moving on to meeting new people and not wasting time with someone that wasn’t into me.
If he says to you “I only want to be with you”, pay attention. The question that should come to mind is, ‘Well, who else? Who else would you want to be with? Why am I the only one?’ What does that even mean?
He says, “I want you to have my baby”, Trust me, that very often is said in the passion of the moment and he means it in the moment but it’s not going to be the way he feels the next day. A real man would not say these words to you just to make sure he hits home base.
He’s NOT affectionate and/or if you’re kissing and he’s kissing you back but you find his eyes are open and he’s looking around, you should know that’s a sign to consider.
He makes AND breaks promises. If he’s always promising you, “We’re going to go out”, “I promise I’m going to call/text”, ‘We’re going to meet my family”, blah blah blah…but it doesn’t happen, there’s a reason he’s not keeping the promises. That’s a huge red flag!
He always talks about the future, but the future never comes. It’s about what’s going to happen, what’s always ahead…but you’re left dealing with what DIDN’T happen. Bottom line: If you find you’re waiting for something more to happen between the two of you and the only thing that seems to be happening is that you’re having great sex, he may be faking the LOVING PART. Men will sometimes tell you what you want to hear to keep you around for the sex.
Good luck ladies!
April M. Monterrosa is Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Marine Corps wife, Mama of a Dachshund, licensed Cosmetologist & The Lil Spa Room Owner, Founder of the Wonderfully Wise Women Group, Blog, & Online Magazine, a Writer for SAXtreme Magazine, PCA Skin Chemical Peel certified, & a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor.