Came across this really cool USMC nail art as I was browsing online. Seemed appropriate to post today. Happy birthday to the United States Marine Corps!
I always tell my friends its not easy being a stepmom. But let’s be honest, being a step parent is far from easy! Though there may be many struggles and hurdles when being a step parent, there are things that you need to keep in mind to better your situation, whatever it may be. Don’t be a sucky step parent, embrace that with the love of your spouse, along came a bonus of blessings in your step children.Your step children will have inner and outer traits of your spouse, how can you now want to love them? In my opinion, step parents are bonus parents for children and put in their lives to give them extra childhood memories and more love.
Drama flares up when people are jealous, still have harsh feelings, are control freaks, and make decisions that benefit themselves instead of the children. You have to learn how to pick and choose your battles. Is something really worth arguing about and exchanging harsh words over when it’s out of your control and just going to distance your step child from you? I think not. If it’s something petty that is crawling under your skin, blow it off, it’s not worth upsetting all parties involved or being upset over it yourself. Also, never involve children in any arguments or try to pin them against parents or step parents. Every time you involve children in arguments, it robs them from childhood time and exposes them to adult issues that they may not understand and be too much to handle.
So you may or may not like your spouse’s ex, but, your stepchild has wonderful manners, grades, always respectful, and says great things about their other parent. They are obviously doing something right, so before you decide to hate on your spouse’s ex for immature reasons think of those things. Giving credit works both ways too. If you are the custodial parent and your children love your ex’s new spouse, don’t be jealous, and be thankful! Would you rather they treat your child like dirt? If you are blessed with your child having great step parents, being appreciative of them and giving a simple thank you would mean so much. Not all blended families are that lucky.
Sharing the child’s things between the two families is often a touchy subject. What’s the point in fighting over clothes and toys when they don’t belong to you, your spouse, or your spouse’s ex and belong to the child? Be mature and don’t argue over material things. If something holds sentimental value that you purchased, then that’s a different story and it may just take some simple explaining to the other parent(s) and/or children.
When you marry someone with children, they are a package deal; even more so if your spouse has full custody. The children involved have no choice in picking their step parents. You have to keep in mind that their lives were completely different prior to you and some may still even be going through a rough time accepting the divorce. Be patient and understanding with your step children; all good solid relationships take those two things the most.
If both your spouse and you have children, keep in mind that after you get married, all children are YOUR children together. Not one of them should get any special treatment over the other. They should all be loved, supported equally, and taken care of all the same. That should go for discipline as well. Everything being fair in the household also teaches your children respect authority and to treat all walks of life with kindness.
Show some respect
Whether you like your spouse’s ex or not, that is who they had children with. They will always be in your life as long as you are with your spouse. Be civil and respectful; keep the best interests of the children in mind, and be a good example to them. Even if the other party doesn’t meet you halfway, at least in the children’s eyes you are the bigger person. It’s not that hard to do.
Good communication=good step children. Always keep positive when dealing with negative people because positivity always wins. If your spouse’s ex is constantly trying to create some sort of drama and you are doing just the opposite, it gets noticed by the children. Don’t stoop to a low level; be the bigger person, it’s so much better for the relationship with your step children, your spouse, and yourself.
Every blended family is different. All we can do as step parents is be a good influence in our step children’s lives by consistently being the positive reinforcement. Challenging yes, worth it definitely.
October 29 is National Oatmeal Day! Oatmeal has long been a favorite breakfast dish and is meal that is not only a quick hunger fix, but is also full of wonderful health benefits. Oats provide a good source of fiber and are a great way to lower one’s blood cholesterol. Oatmeal is also recognized by the Food and Drug Administration as a food that may reduce the risk of heart disease in combination with a normal low-fat eating regimen. If you think that oatmeal is a popular dish in the United States, you will be surprised to learn that it has a number of long traditions in other countries. In Scotland, oatmeal has been a popular grain option for many years because oats are easier to grow than wheat particularly in light of the area’s short wet growing seasons. Traditionally, the Scots grind the oats into a coarse powder, separating it into different batches depending on the coarseness. The ground oats are then used in dishes such as porridge, brose, gruel, skirlie and haggis, as well as a number of other popular applications. In Switzerland, oatmeal is used in a popular cold breakfast dish called Muesli, where the oats are combined with milk, honey and other spices, refrigerated overnight and eaten the next day with nuts and fruits added to the dish. In the United States, Vermont has the biggest connection to oats and oatmeal due to the large number of Scottish settlers that came to the state. Today, Vermont is the leading state in per capita consumption of oatmeal. Whether you like your oats in a cookie, a smoothie or in a plain old batch of oatmeal with apples and cinnamon, give thanks to oatmeal on its national day.
Oatmeal and Beauty
Most of us think of oatmeal as something we eat for breakfast, but it can also be used for facials or skin treatments. It is very beneficial for your skin. It cleanses your skin without irritating or drying it out. In addition it helps relieve any dryness you might be feeling and helps maintain the moisture content in your skin.
Benefits Of Oatmeal:
Oatmeal is very beneficial for your skin. it is one of the best natural treatments for dry skin. It can also act as natural skin cleanser, facial scrub and soothing facial mask.
1. It is anti-inflammatory. So, if you have redness along with dry and itchy skin, this could be your new best friend as it reduces redness and makes the complexion more toned and even.
2. It is truly all in one cleanser. It cleans, moisturizes, soothes and protects the skin. It helps heal the skin after exposure to the sun. When used as a skin cleanser, it actually absorbs and removes surface dirt and impurities while providing very gentle exfoliation, leaving skin smooth, soft, and clean, without soap.
3. For those with skin irritations that have been caused as a result of using other cosmetic products or have been exposed to chemicals present in some cleaning products, then you should consider using oatmeal. This natural treatment method is also useful for people who have excessively scrubbed their skin. It cleanses deep pores without drying out or irritating the skin.
4. Oatmeal baths are highly recommended to people with acne. This is because of the soothing properties of oatmeal that provide relief to your skin.
Homemade Oatmeal Beauty Recipes:
Face Masks Of Oatmeal:
Here are few simple ways in which you can prepare face masks using oatmeal and apply them regularly on your face:
Deep Cleansing Face Mask:
Mix 1 tablespoon of finely grounded oatmeal with 1 tablespoon of live organic yogurt and 1 small spoon of honey. Just beat the mixture until it becomes consistent enough to spread all over. If you warm the honey it will give more consistency to the mixture. Apply the mixture on a clean face and leave it on for 10- 15 minutes. Then wash it off with warm water and see the results.
Honey And Oatmeal Face Mask:
Mix 1 teaspoon olive oil, 1 egg yolk, 1 teaspoon honey and 1 teaspoon instant oatmeal. Blend all these ingredients to make them consistent. Apply the mixture to your face and leave it on for a few minutes. Rinse it off with luke warm water.
Oatmeal And Egg White Mask:
Mix oatmeal with one egg white. Blend well and then apply to your face. Leave it on until it dries, which should take about 15 15 minutes. Then wash it off with warm water.
Oat flour can be used in face and body scrubs to buff your face for a clean, soft finish. Here’s a few real easy ones:
Mild face scrub
Mix 1 part oatmeal flour with 1 part carrier oil (such as olive), wash off with warm water. Finish with some oat milk toner.
Oatmeal body scrub
Mix equal parts of olive oil and sugar with a bit of a carrier oil. Use as a body scrub instead of soap, wash with warm water. You’ll probably not need to moisturize after using this scrub.
If you have blonde hair, ground oats is a fantastic dry shampoo. Just rub some over your scalp, and brush excess oats out with a boar bristle brush.
Oat bran bath
Put about 1 dl (0.5 cup) of oat groans or rolled oats in some cloth and tie it up to make a small bag. Put this in your bath tub or in your foot bath. Press the bag a bit until the oatmeal “milk” comes out. You can also use this bag instead of soap on your body or face. It will give a light scrubbing and cleanse your skin and pores.
1 cup non-dairy milk – I used unsweetened almond milk
1/2 cup canned pumpkin
1 tbsp raisins or 1/2 tsp maple syrup
1/2 tsp gluten-free, alcohol-free pure vanilla extract
1/4 tsp ground cinnamon
1/8 tsp ground ginger
pinch ground nutmeg
pinch ground cloves
pinch all spice
Place everything but whipped topping in the blender.
Blend until smooth
*Pour into your favorite glass and place a couple tablespoons of coconut whipped cream on top.
Sprinkle with cinnamon if you’d like!
2 oz Barefoot Riesling
1 oz pumpkin liqueur
1 oz cream liqueur
1 pinch ground cinnamon
1 pinch ground nutmeg
Directions for 1 serving:
Combine Riesling, pumpkin liqueur and cream liqueur in martini shaker over ice. Shake well and strain into martini glass. Sprinkle with cinnamon and nutmeg as garnish and serve!
Fall has arrived! For those of you rolling your eyes at our 85 degree “autumn” weather here in San Antonio, Texas, it’s a heck of a lot better than being in the 100+ degree heat! When you think of fall, you think about cooler mornings, windier evenings, and summer officially ending. Fall is my favorite time of year; now being officially self employed and having more freedom to enjoy life, these are some of the things that I plan on enjoying to celebrate the season.
The Pumpkin craze: Pumpkin pie, pumpkin cheesecake, pumpkin oreos, pumpkin beer, pumpkin facials, pumpkin massages, pumpkin manicures & pedicures, pumpkin candles, roasted pumpkin seeds, pumpkin bread, pumpkin cupcakes, pumpkin ice cream, and last but not least…The pumpkin spiced latte…YUM! (Starbucks shout-out!) I probably gained about 20 lbs just typing up this list, haha, but, you gotta admit, all of the listed is pretty enjoyable.
Not a “Fashionista”: So for those that personally know me, I am a very plain Jane when it comes to the fashion world. Jeans, boots, sweaters, jackets, thick socks, and hats are my thing and are in “style” during the fall season. Nothing cozy like a warm pair of yoga pants to bum around in! My favorite colors are fall faves too, black, browns, taupes, dark greens, plums, and coppers! No more summer pink everywhere you turn!
Shut up and Drive: Fall is the best time to open up your windows, sunroof, and turn up the jams and just drive through scenic country roads. Try it on a day off and appreciate the beauty!
Places all to yourself: Its school time, so that means, movie theatres, malls, restaurants, and pretty much anywhere you go during the week is not crowed with screaming summer kids. I’m sure stay at home moms love the peace and quiet with their children being in school.
BOO! Halloween: Nothing more fun than decorating the house, carving pumpkins with the family, passing out candies to the trick or treaters, and seeing all the cool costumes. Halloween is MY Christmas. The main perk of being an adult on Halloween: NO candy limit…all you can eat!
More sleep: Whether you’re a morning person or not, it’s nice to know you have an extra hour to sleep in if you want to, thanks to daylight savings. I know many friends and family members totally appreciate that hour of sleeping in.
Thanksgiving: All the food! Turkey, mashers, stuffing, pies…that’s what it’s all about! Ok, totally kidding! Thanksgiving is the one day (or night) you get to sit down, feast, and hang out with your family and full bellies. How can you not be thankful on such a day?
In celebration of my favorite season, I have some festive autumn themed spa treatments at my spa studio. If you’re in the San Antonio area, be sure to schedule one!
Seasonal Specials (Till December 1st)
Pumpkin Spice Foot Facial $50-A foot facial is the perfect antidote for stress, tired feet & general fatigue. Your feet work hard; let’s give them a long overdue rest along with softening your skin. Warm up this fall with a delicious scented pumpkin spice foot facial. This Fall foot treatment includes a cleanse, exfoliating scrub, warm hydrating mask, hot towel wrap, foot & calf massage & warm booties all while relaxing on a cozy, heated table. This treatment is sure to melt the stress away!! 45 minutes
Pumpkin Back Treatment $70-This “back facial” consists of a deep cleansing, exfoliation with a pumpkin scrub, & massage using a special nutrient enriched and deliciously scented pumpkin oil. The pumpkin enzyme mask will then nourish your skin before being enriched with a moisturizing pumpkin butter lotion. The benefits of pumpkin include natural exfoliation, increased hydration, skin healing, restoration of elasticity, inhibition of breakouts, & aging reversal through increased cell turnover! 50 minutes
Pumpkin Cheesecake Facial (All Skin Types) $60-Pumpkin “nature’s natural collagen” is the perfect way to celebrate fall and replenish dry, summer skin. The Pumpkin Facial exfoliates surface skin cells (Anti aging results can be seen by the reduction of lines and wrinkles in addition to an improvement in the skin’s elasticity.), provides antioxidant support, stimulates collagen activity, uses a warming pumpkin mask and leaves skin feeling smooth and perfectly polished! This festive facial is a seasonal favorite, and I am sure it will be one of yours too! 50 minutes
Spiced Cider Facial (All Skin Types) $70-A beautiful medley of fall scents such as fresh apples, nutmeg and cinnamon. This facial delivers a comforting, warming effect on the skin perfect for the autumn months. Packed with malic acid from apples to exfoliate your skin and filled with rich antioxidants, vitamin C, and enzymes to help hydrate, firm and improve skin tone. The mask contains nutmeg to soothe inflammation. Cinnamon creates a warming sensation in the skin while honeysuckle and passionflower provide anti-aging benefits for healthy nourished skin. 50 minutes
**Facials include extractions, arm & hand, décolleté, neck, shoulder, & scalp massage. **Add an eyebrow or lip wax to your seasonal facial & receive it at half off.