Haters; Sometimes They’re Your Own Family Members

We all have those family members that think you’re stuck up just because you’re successful, have a happy life, & want better for yourself & your loved ones. Yeah…you know you have one too, maybe even a handful of them…While you’re busting your ass to work hard for a better life, usually the ones talking the most shit are sitting on their asses angry at the world, gossiping about everyone, twisting every bit of information that comes their way, plotting their next vindictive move, or acting like something they’re not to win the trust of others to use for their own benefit. That is definitely NOT a healthy or the right way to live and successful will never be a word they would be able to use. hatersWhile these people are busy doing that, they fail to realize what they are missing around them. Holidays, birthdays, family gatherings, school functions, children growing up, and anything family should be a part of.  So many families are torn apart because of 1 or 2 people in the family that are like this & what’s even worse, is other family members sometimes like following along with the drama. familyFamily should be about enjoying life together, being happy & proud of accomplishments, & making memories for the generations to come. As much as you try to change things or include these family members in your life or giving them the benefit of the doubt, they end up hurting you…more than the time before. It’s really sad, but unfortunately these people will never change, they actually like living this way. Usually they are unhappy, bitter, can’t let go of ugliness of the past, or holding on to old grudges. If they fail to deal with their own inner demons in some way, that is no ones fault but their own. Why should you or your family have to suffer for it? I’ve learned from my parents to stay far away from family members like this.  And now that I am older and see how the lives of my immediate family have turned out by staying away, I am glad we did. There is so much love in my family, if any one of us needs something; we never hesitate to help each other out without any expectations. That’s how it should be with family always. The world is full of enough evil shit, sad to say it’s sometimes in your own family. Live happily with joy and peace & appreciate those in your family that want the same for you and yours. Don’t waste time being affected by the bitterness & ugliness that comes people like this; its not healthy and certainly not worth it. Negativity is nothing but a dead weight.



Tips to Stress Less

  • Go for a leisurely walk. A leisurely walk allows you to get a breath of fresh air and exercises your body. The exercise that you get from a walk can be invigorating, and the energy you get from it helps you relax and relieve anxiety.
  • Keep pets. If you have the time and can afford one, keep a pet, either a dog or a cat. Pets are good companions, and taking care of them allows you to form an emotional bond with them, which lets you express your pent-up feelings. Like, when you need a hug, you can always hug your dog.
  • Take the time to appreciate things. Sometimes, being in a rush not only leaves you stressed out but also makes you forget to look at the simpler but finer things in life.
  • Take a brief pause from work, get some coffee and stare out at the sky from your window. If you have a day off, savor it. Linger in bed and catch up on some sleep, read a book or give yourself a foot spa treatment.
  • Maybe you can go out and watch a movie or have brunch with your friends.
  • Discover new skills. There is nothing like a great achievement to bring a smile on ones face. And what else can bring this sense of victory other than excelling on something, especially on a skill that you have just learned? Get yourself a hobby and learn new things.
  • Perhaps you can take on painting, photography or sketching. Maybe you can try your hand on needlework, knitting or crocheting. Your finished work will definitely make you smile.
  • Pay someone a compliment. If you are feeling low, you can uplift yourself by uplifting others. Smiling is contagious and seeing other people smile can get you smiling too. A compliment does not have to be flowery. Something as simple as You look nice will do, as long as it is done with sincerity.


What Does Love Mean to You?

Another weekly blog challenge I came across asked what love meant to me…What does love mean to you? Everyone has their own opinion of what love really is…others simply don’t even believe in it at all. I’ll tell you what love means to me…love is fucking crazy…it’s not rainbows, butterflies, hopping and skipping together in pure bliss. I mean, don’t get me wrong, there are those days too. Love is sticking around even when shit is going wrong…when someone hurts you to the core where you wish they felt the same pain in their heart that was eating you alive. The butterflies that fly around in your tummy when it’s all fresh and new turn into worms eating at your flesh till you’re in extreme agony when the person that you love hurts you. And though you ache, you still love this person and want to be with them. Love makes you feel like you are invincible, like some super hero that can save the world and can also make you feel like the world is going to end. I can go on and on about what love means to me…but if I had to choose one thing, it be forgiveness. Love is about forgiving the person that broke your heart; realizing that no matter what, they are still there wanting to be with you even if they made a mistake and most of all proving that it will never happen again. Love has shown me how much of a demon I can become when I’m hurt and how much my heart has grown through all the healing. Enough with the random love talk. Time to dream…Good night.



Valentine’s Day Roses & Color Meanings

Now that Valentine’s Day is around the corner, I’m sure many of you will be receiving vases & bouquets of beautiful roses on your office desk or at home. It’s too bad those beauties don’t live forever. But in the meantime, as you admire their beauty, wouldn’t you like to know what the different colors mean? Here’s what I found…

Red Roses Red roses convey a simple message: “I love you”. This makes them the ultimate symbol of romantic love and the most popular choice on Valentine’s Day. Other meanings for red roses include desire, passion, courage, respect, beauty and sincerity. A red rosebud symbolizes purity and loveliness.

Coral Roses Coral roses speak of desire and passion.

Lilac or Lavender Roses Lilac roses reveal love at first sight or enchantment.

Orange Roses Orange roses communicate desire, enthusiasm and fascination. They make an excellent choice for a new relationship that you wish to pursue further.

Peach Roses Peach roses express gratitude, appreciation, admiration or sympathy. They can also convey sociability and friendship and send the message “Let’s get together”. A pale peach rose symbolizes modesty.

Pink Roses In general, pink roses symbolize grace, gentility and happiness and express appreciation and gratitude.

Pale Pink Roses Pale pink roses connote grace, joy, gentility and gratitude.Light Pink Roses Light pink roses suggest happiness and fun. Like all pink roses, they also convey admiration and appreciation.Deep Pink Roses Deep pink roses say “Thank you”. They also express appreciation, admiration, sincerity and sympathy.

White Roses Second only to red roses in popularity, white roses symbolize truth and innocence. They also represent silence, secrecy, reverence, humility, youthfulness and charm. You can use them to say, “You’re heavenly”, “I miss you” and “I’m worthy of you”. A white rosebud symbolizes girlhood.

Yellow Roses Yellow roses symbolize friendship and freedom, so are not specifically romantic roses. They convey congratulations, joy, gladness and delight. But they also promise a new beginning, say “Welcome back” and “Remember me”, and can convey jealousy and caring. Yellow roses with red tips convey friendship and falling in love.

Dead Roses Dead roses in any color convey “It’s over!”

Rose color combos: Red and Yellow Roses Expresses happiness and celebration
Red and White Roses Symbolizes unity and harmony or an engagement
White and Yellow Roses Symbolizes harmony
Red and Pink Roses
Deeper meaning to a romantic relationship
Pink and Yellow Roses
Expression of friendship
Lavender and Orange Roses
You’re falling in love or desired
Hope learning the meaning of your roses was as fun & interesting for you as it was for me.

Random Moments of Delight #1

Lately I have been keeping up with my fellow bloggers a bit more and came across this challenge call the Random Moments of Delight Challenge; because of the amazing entries I came across, I decided to join it myself. My first entry is about a weekend getaway where I was able to enjoy scenery that was beyond beautiful. A sunrise deep in the hill country of Leakey, Texas; spring had arrived and the array of colors46871_10200507489030197_1576457832_n proved it. Mountain laurel, cedar, oak and mesquite trees, and of course plenty of wildflowers to see; I even saw deer, turkey, doves, finches, roadrunners, lizards, and frogs. The wind felt amazing out there, crisp like the air of autumn blowing enough to give you a slight chill. The aroma of the night’s campfire blended in with all the smells of nature is unlike no other. The peace and quiet allows you to listen to things you wouldn’t be able hear in the city. The wind softly whistling, a raven flying over my head, and branches colliding together as the breeze brings them closely. I guess Mother Nature has her own symphony.

When it was afternoon there, the sky is blue and filled with huge white clouds; you would think you were looking at a painting. The sun was happily shining on all the hilltops bringing out their deep green colors. With the wind even softer than the morning, the sun kissed you enough to feel warmth.  Birds were chirping all day as if they were singing you a song. It could have been complete silence and the view alone took your breath away. God definitely blessed Texas.

843960_467312610003409_499228480_oAs the sun began to set, the sky was a burnt orange with streaks of crimson, and the sun looked like a huge citrus fruit that you wanted to sink your teeth into. Right beside it was a subtle silhouette of the moon in a blue sky. It’s amazing to see the sky at its half way point from day to night. Night time tends to come quickly here and just as you think you’ll miss all the beauty daytime has to offer, the sky is black with so many bright stars looking down at you ready to hear all your thoughts and wishes.  Again, Mother Nature’s symphony begins, even louder than when the sun is out. I think she has her creatures of the wilderness show off a bit when they can’t be seen.

Not a phone ringing, a text coming in, or any sound of city traffic. How can you miss any of that when you’re surrounded by such beauty; things we take for granted. Get out and appreciate nature, the beautiful scenery that’s close to you. Something about nature always gives us inner peace. This was definitely a random moment of delight.45472_10200386016313455_1683649840_n




I don’t even know you but I feel like I do
Maybe you’re a fascination or maybe you’re true
Almost at arm’s length right from the start
Though you’re not near me your held by my heart
I walk around with butterflies all up inside
Thinking you want me just for a ride
This might be a story or may be surreal but know in the end that I am for real


About the Author:

Mrs. Randy MonterrosaBeauty Writer & Lifestyle Blogger April M. Monterrosa is a Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Military wife, the mama of a dachshund, a licensed Cosmetologist of 18 years, Owner of The Lil Spa Room, & a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor. With beauty & blogging being such passions, Shine Beautifully was born. Shine Beautifully will feature beauty tips, home remedies, quotes, poetry, recipes, personal stories, travel adventures, & an array of other topics. Don’t forget to subscribe!

Thanksgiving Family Drama

Thanksgiving is the time of year that we’re all gather together with our families. We all sit at the table as one big happy family, say a prayer before someone carves the turkey, and spend the day feasting and enjoying each other’s company. All week long at work, clients have all asked me the same thing. Do you go to your grandparent’s house? Do you spend Thanksgiving with ALL your family? Are you closer t your mom’s family or your dad’s family? I guess with the holidays around, they feel more comfortable to ask me such personal questions; maybe they are just trying to get to know me a little more. So here are my answers; no, we don’t go to any grandparent’s homes. No, we don’t spend it with all of our family & no, we aren’t close to either side of the family. Sad to say, yes, but has it worked for my immediate family, yes. Being the oldest grandchild from both sides of the family and never being naive  I was very observant of all the favoritism my grandparents had (on both sides of the family). Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, may be your family yes, unfortunately the world is full of liars, vindictive, and shady people…and yeah, you may even be related to them.

People try so hard to get the acceptance of their families, I mean, that’s who you are suppose to love and be supported by, right? Sometimes, jealousy, envy, and greed get the best of people and they ruin the bond they are supposed to have with their families. Many of us have these kinds of people in our families, some may try their hardest to fix things and are never met halfway, and others may keep on holding the same grudge or having the same meaningless argument and never resolve anything. And then they are people like my parents. Both so strong in their own individual ways, but yet complement each other well. My parents got tired of the gossip, the lies, the grudges, the bullshit, and the wishy washy-ness that was all for nothing. Being that they eloped at a very young age I am sure the family each had their own opinions about them lasting together. But come on, it’s been over 35 years, they are obviously happily married and have a great life to show for all  their hard work…so if the family can’t get over that…then I guess that’s just too damn bad, right?

This Thanksgiving season, I have realized so much. Even though I didn’t understand at the time why my parents kept to themselves and kept us away from all the family drama, I totally get it now. For those of you that are trying to fix unhealthy relationships with your families and in-laws. Really take a look at the bigger picture. Are they meeting you halfway? Is it really worth it? Are you just wasting your time? Are you hurting your family or putting your marriage in jeopardy? I like to think my parents got together and asked themselves and each other these same questions, because our childhood was so drama free and good by keeping away from the rest of the family. Sure, we are close to a few cousins, aunts, and uncles, but only because there wasn’t ever any drama with them. If you have children and do not have a great relationship with your family or in-laws, focus on making things even better for your children. I know it’s hard when your children do not have that relationship with their grandparents, aunts, or uncles, but why try with people that just don’t care to?

This thanksgiving I have so much to be thankful for. My life isn’t perfect, but incredible, I can’t even explain how wonderful things have gone for me, despite all I’ve been through. All of my family will be at the table this year; my husband, my baby brother & sister in law, my nephews, & my little brother , & even my mother in law. I’m especially thankful for my parents; they are both here, healthy, and together after 40 years. No matter what their families have put them through, how many times they have caused drama or try to ruin their happiness, the both of them stood strong and together. They made sure we had fun holidays always. For this, I am not only blessed, but lucky. I don’t know any other way then to be happy and to stay away from people that want to ruin that. It’s because of them, we all have always sat together at the table for every holiday making wonderful family memories…and can now pass all those traditions to my nephews. Thank you mom and dad, for making me the women I am today, and making our family bond so strong.  Every joyous holiday memory we all have is because of you. Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!