Chase Your Dreams, Ignore the Bullshit

tumblr_m0gm28q9jk1qm94r5o1_500As women, we are always put to the test to see how much we can take, how far we can go, how tough we are till we break.  Many women have dreams and goals that are influenced by others. They want and need attention while looking good to their peers. That’s the wrong kind of dream to chase. Go after what’s really in your heart; if its finishing school, building something, getting that high paying job, traveling around the world, being on the cover of vogue…whatever it is, chase your dreams and do all you can for them to come true.

If family puts you down and makes fun of you, thinking your goals and dreams are stupid or a waste of time, ignore them. People like that have no balls to go out there with blood, sweat, & tears to do what they really want to do. They’re usually lazy, have no ambition, and the only thing that moves fast is their mouth talking shit about others when they should be looking at how they can improve themselves. Show them that no matter how many bad things they say to you or about you, you will succeed, to give in 7156943497_d50d4b0c36_zto their negative shit.

If you’re in a relationship and your spouse pays no attention to your ambitions, it’s because they simply do not care. As sad as this is, people like that usually have no goals themselves. If they tell you you’re not going to be successful, you’re not capable of making it to the top, it’s only because they are jealous of the drive that you have, they know that you will be, and they don’t want you to do things better than them…pure selfishness! You deserve better.

Pay no attention to negative people that do not believe you. As much as you think you need them, you don’t. Negativity slows you down, makes you doubt yourself, and gets you nowhere. Believe in yourself, if you have family and a spouse that doesn’t support you, then YOU support you. Wake up every morning and go to bed every night with good thoughts, ideas how to make your dreams a reality, and put forth the effort to do so every chance you get. We only have one life, count on yourself to fulfill it as much as you can, what are you waiting for? Dream it….do it…live it! ❤

chase-your-dreamsAbout the Author:

Beauty Writer & Lifestyle Blogger April M. Monterrosa is a Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Military wife, the mama of a dachshund, a licensed Cosmetologist of 18 years, Owner of The Lil Spa Room, & a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor. With beauty & blogging being such passions, Shine Beautifully was born. Shine Beautifully will feature beauty tips, home remedies, quotes, poetry, recipes, personal stories, travel adventures, & an array of other topics. Don’t forget to subscribe!

 

Who Makes Your World Go Round?

It’s amazing how two faced family can be. You work hard, get an education, become successful, and then they start moving their mouth saying shit like, “you think your better than everyone”…really? Family is suppose to be about support and motivation. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Sometimes you have to toughen up and stay away from negativity (even if it’s your own family) to really focus on your goals and remain positive in reaching them.

I had good examples growing up, both my parents didn’t come from stable homes. Both different, but filled with different levels of instability. There was favoritism, envy, no communication, and no affection. The both of them together wanted a different environment for their own children, so they made that happen. We were beyond blessed to have parents that not only were amazing in raising us, but they made up for the family roles we lacked in our childhood such as aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. So holidays and birthdays were and still are big celebrations in our immediate family.

Being the oldest grandchild from both sides of the family, I saw and heard with my own eyes and ears plenty of things that made all sense of why my parents made sure we all were loved and treated equally. Till this day, as adults, they’re still that way. From what I know of my grandparents, I can honestly say that my parents are nothing like them. Whatever they did to keep only the good qualities they inherited from their parents, it worked.

Now as an adult, I’m closer to my immediate family more than ever. We may even get viewed in a bad way or judged just because we stick to ourselves and not get involved and go to family events. It is better not to go than act fake anyway. I’m close to a few cousins, aunts, and uncles…And that’s very few. I’m proud of my parents for always standing tall together even though other parts of the family gossip about them. I’m even more proud because they taught us do be the same way. With all the lying, stealing, scheming, and gossiping both sides of the family has done, I’m glad we were never around any of it. So anytime my brothers or I accomplishes something, we get nothing but happiness and motivation from my parents.

My family now has grown. Not only do I have two gorgeous nephews and a beautiful step daughter, but I have wonderful friends. These friends are the next best thing to my family. In good times and in bad, they are there always. They are who makes my world go round.

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