Unforgettable-Poetry

Years of longing finally came to an end. It was here, that one chance to feel the most unforgettable feeling in my existence. Only one night, filled with desire, love spewing from every direction in the room, it was common ground, yet still shaky with nerves of innocence. He’s the one, my long lost love, where my soul feels at home, where it belongs. His touch is like no other, it’s safe yet erotic in its own way. His kisses feel like rain, dripping all over my naive mind. And the look that he gave me is one I can only read. Night was almost over,  the sun was on its way, and though it came to an end, every time I close my eyes it’s all I see.

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What Does Love Mean to You?

Another weekly blog challenge I came across asked what love meant to me…What does love mean to you? Everyone has their own opinion of what love really is…others simply don’t even believe in it at all. I’ll tell you what love means to me…love is fucking crazy…it’s not rainbows, butterflies, hopping and skipping together in pure bliss. I mean, don’t get me wrong, there are those days too. Love is sticking around even when shit is going wrong…when someone hurts you to the core where you wish they felt the same pain in their heart that was eating you alive. The butterflies that fly around in your tummy when it’s all fresh and new turn into worms eating at your flesh till you’re in extreme agony when the person that you love hurts you. And though you ache, you still love this person and want to be with them. Love makes you feel like you are invincible, like some super hero that can save the world and can also make you feel like the world is going to end. I can go on and on about what love means to me…but if I had to choose one thing, it be forgiveness. Love is about forgiving the person that broke your heart; realizing that no matter what, they are still there wanting to be with you even if they made a mistake and most of all proving that it will never happen again. Love has shown me how much of a demon I can become when I’m hurt and how much my heart has grown through all the healing. Enough with the random love talk. Time to dream…Good night.

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Thanksgiving Family Drama

Thanksgiving is the time of year that we’re all gather together with our families. We all sit at the table as one big happy family, say a prayer before someone carves the turkey, and spend the day feasting and enjoying each other’s company. All week long at work, clients have all asked me the same thing. Do you go to your grandparent’s house? Do you spend Thanksgiving with ALL your family? Are you closer t your mom’s family or your dad’s family? I guess with the holidays around, they feel more comfortable to ask me such personal questions; maybe they are just trying to get to know me a little more. So here are my answers; no, we don’t go to any grandparent’s homes. No, we don’t spend it with all of our family & no, we aren’t close to either side of the family. Sad to say, yes, but has it worked for my immediate family, yes. Being the oldest grandchild from both sides of the family and never being naive  I was very observant of all the favoritism my grandparents had (on both sides of the family). Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, may be your family yes, unfortunately the world is full of liars, vindictive, and shady people…and yeah, you may even be related to them.

People try so hard to get the acceptance of their families, I mean, that’s who you are suppose to love and be supported by, right? Sometimes, jealousy, envy, and greed get the best of people and they ruin the bond they are supposed to have with their families. Many of us have these kinds of people in our families, some may try their hardest to fix things and are never met halfway, and others may keep on holding the same grudge or having the same meaningless argument and never resolve anything. And then they are people like my parents. Both so strong in their own individual ways, but yet complement each other well. My parents got tired of the gossip, the lies, the grudges, the bullshit, and the wishy washy-ness that was all for nothing. Being that they eloped at a very young age I am sure the family each had their own opinions about them lasting together. But come on, it’s been over 35 years, they are obviously happily married and have a great life to show for all  their hard work…so if the family can’t get over that…then I guess that’s just too damn bad, right?

This Thanksgiving season, I have realized so much. Even though I didn’t understand at the time why my parents kept to themselves and kept us away from all the family drama, I totally get it now. For those of you that are trying to fix unhealthy relationships with your families and in-laws. Really take a look at the bigger picture. Are they meeting you halfway? Is it really worth it? Are you just wasting your time? Are you hurting your family or putting your marriage in jeopardy? I like to think my parents got together and asked themselves and each other these same questions, because our childhood was so drama free and good by keeping away from the rest of the family. Sure, we are close to a few cousins, aunts, and uncles, but only because there wasn’t ever any drama with them. If you have children and do not have a great relationship with your family or in-laws, focus on making things even better for your children. I know it’s hard when your children do not have that relationship with their grandparents, aunts, or uncles, but why try with people that just don’t care to?

This thanksgiving I have so much to be thankful for. My life isn’t perfect, but incredible, I can’t even explain how wonderful things have gone for me, despite all I’ve been through. All of my family will be at the table this year; my husband, my baby brother & sister in law, my nephews, & my little brother , & even my mother in law. I’m especially thankful for my parents; they are both here, healthy, and together after 40 years. No matter what their families have put them through, how many times they have caused drama or try to ruin their happiness, the both of them stood strong and together. They made sure we had fun holidays always. For this, I am not only blessed, but lucky. I don’t know any other way then to be happy and to stay away from people that want to ruin that. It’s because of them, we all have always sat together at the table for every holiday making wonderful family memories…and can now pass all those traditions to my nephews. Thank you mom and dad, for making me the women I am today, and making our family bond so strong.  Every joyous holiday memory we all have is because of you. Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
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Healthy Sex Life=Healthy Skin

As they say, love and laughter is good for the body and soul. But it’s not only good for the body and soul; it’s also great for your skin.  Now in the beauty industry for over 17 years and in my mid 30’s I am beginning to take extra care of my skin and pay close attention to the fine lines that are now starting to appear. What I have noticed is how my skin glows a bit more these days since I’m taking better care of it, I have had less breakouts, and my tone and texture seem a tad more even.  It’s been while since I have had an intense chemical peel or anything aggressive that would give my skin such benefits.

I remember when my husband had come home after a long deployment; I finally had a chance to enjoy being a newlywed & was living, laughing, and most definitely “loving” a lot more.  What I didn’t realize is how all the newlywed bliss had really made an impact on my skin. Total flawlessness…(in my eyes at least). Its amazing how being in love, being loved back, and having a healthy sex life improves your skin. Next to luxurious spa treatments, happiness, and laughter, sex is the ultimate spa beauty treatment.

 Stop searching for the fountain of youth, getting busy could set your clock back a few years as far as your appearance is concerned. Sex increases blood circulation, which in turn increases oxygen supply to the skin cells, resulting in a natural brightening effect, better hydration and keeps that skin from being on the dry side. This doesn’t mean you can replace your eight glasses of water a day either, so keep drinking that water.  Since it also boosts collagen production, it fights off age spots, sagging, and keeps those wrinkles from creeping up on your skin, maybe even better then some of the facial masks on the market today. Your skin is not the only thing gaining strength and luster, so are your nails and hair.

As you start to sweat during a heated rendezvous sweating releases natural oils that lubricate and hydrate your skin. Those natural oils are what keep your skin looking dewy and fresh. Sweating can also help cleanse and detoxify the skin which can get rid of toxins and impurities in your pores. Think of your sexual perspiration as a free mini facial; just be sure to give your skin a cleansing before going to sleep to eliminate clogged pores. With all that blood circulation going on just think of the noticeable glow you will have after your love session. You’ll have pink lips, rosy cheeks, dewy skin, & shiny eyes for at least a couple of days …who needs a trip to the cosmetic counter with all that!

The big O not only reduces stress, it also lowers blood pressure, calms your nerves, eases the mind, and hits you with an intense wave of calmness. So maybe you can put off going to the spa for some relaxation or taking that sleeping pill to help you fight off those sleepless nights. Adding sex to your bedtime routine can very much relieve stress. After enjoying the deed for a while with a happy ending is sure to put you into a peaceful sleep which can help resolve those sleep issues. Post-sex sleep is restorative, so you’ll wake up refreshed, looking alive, and with reduced under-eye circles and puffiness. 

Many of us are so determined to stay looking young as long as possible that we invest in all sorts of makeup, creams, lotions, and potions. Although all of these things certainly go a long way to help us accomplish younger looking skin, it can get a bit expensive. Regular sexual engagement can be our “magic anti-aging product” and help make us look younger while not costing us a dime. Sex is a physical action that stimulates the body and mind. With proper diet, regular exercise, take vitamins, and healthy sex life, you make sure you get older with a healthy process. So heat up that bed and remember, putting more wrinkles in the sheets =fewer wrinkles on your skin!

April M. Monterrosa is a Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Military wife, the mama of a dachshund, a licensed Cosmetologist of 18 years, & Owner of The Lil Spa Room,  PCA Skin Chemical Peel certified, a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor, & freelance beauty writer. With beauty & blogging being such passions, Shine Beautifully was born. Shine Beautifully will feature beauty tips, home remedies, quotes, poetry, recipes, personal stories, & travel adventures. Don’t forget to subscribe!

Blood Isn’t Always Thicker Than Water

They say blood is thicker than water…that’s not always true. Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely close to my immediate family, but outside20131006_123713 that, I’m not. In fact, my close friends are more like my blood than my own extended family. This weekend I spent time in the Texas valley with my best friend and her two boys that I consider my family; nothing like being in a small coastal town where everyone is friendly. Hearing my nephew’s little voices filled with excitement that I was visiting made me think of when I was their age. We didn’t grow up very close to aunts, uncles, or cousins, but we were fortunate our parents did many things with us. As a kid, you’d love to have that aunt or uncle that spoiled you rotten, unfortunately it doesn’t always turn out that way. Blood or not.

We are all put in other people’s lives for a reason…a blessing or a lesson. Being in these boys lives, I know I’m a blessing. I may not be blood, but I know what it feels like to not have your aunts and uncles do fun things with you or a part of your life at all. With me in the picture, I know the boys will never feel like they’re missing extended family from their lives. They know what it’s like to have an auntie spoil them, act a little silly when their mom or dad isn’t watching, go on unplanned adventures, and of course eat ice cream at any hour of the night…with good behavior of course!

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I have 4 nephews…5 if you count a dog. I love them all and even though I don’t see them everyday, I make sure to make up for it when I do. Lots of memories were made this weekend…definitely one for the books! Stay tuned for my blog about Sand Castle Days in South Padre Island, Texas! 20131006_113905

 

 

aprilmaemonterrosaApril M. Monterrosa is a Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Military wife, the mama of a dachshund, a licensed Cosmetologist of 18 years, & Owner of The Lil Spa Room,  PCA Skin Chemical Peel certified, a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor, & freelance beauty writer. With beauty & blogging being such passions, Shine Beautifully was born. Shine Beautifully will feature beauty tips, home remedies, quotes, poetry, recipes, personal stories, & travel adventures. Don’t forget to subscribe!

Family Blessings

Believe it or not, I’m actually sitting in a hospital room right next to my sister in law. My mom, dad, 2 brothers, and my nephew are here also, even my uncle and cousin joined us as well. Hopefully soon, my husband will be off from work and won’t miss the birth of our new nephew. Times like this I feel especially lucky to have such a close family bond with my immediate family, my sister in law included. Being that I don’t have any sisters, my sister in law has been around our family for almost 10 years, and we have always gotten along like real sisters, she’s considered immediate family as well.

I remember when i was growing up and there were family functions we attended, there was never this much closeness with other parts of our extended family. There were favorites, fake smiles, or that jealous smirk. Even though my parents turned a blind eye to these things out of respect for family members, it was always obvious to me….I was never a naive child. Its really sad how your parents siblings that have so much envy have no shame in controlling their own children in preventing any kind of family bond…but that’s a whole other blog.

Back to the joy…knowing how my parents grew up makes me wonder how they managed to keep us all so close even till this day. I can’t tell you how joyous this occasion is for me, not having children of my own, being an auntie comes close enough to experiencing motherhood in some way, at least for now. All of us being there for one another especially my brother’s little family, just makes me feel blessed to be in such a loving family and growing up with the mind set that family is the most important thing…it’s everything. Welcome to the world my new nephew…God chose a wonderful family for you to be apart of.

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